Civil partnership separation, so what happens with the children? It is a very concerning time for everyone involved when a Civil Partnership breaks down. Usually there are two main concerns for anyone involved in such a difficult time – what happens to the children and where do you stand financially? Understandably and rightly, concern for the children is usually the priority – however knowing your position financially is also very important, as financial security is key to providing a secure home and secure care for the children.
There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to care of the children. Parents in a civil partnership will have equal ‘rights’ in terms of care for their children. However, it is not really about ‘rights’ but, instead, what is best for the children? Separating parents may wish to consider the realities of their situation against their ‘ideal’ situation. For example, any parent would want to spend as much time as they ideally could with their children, but work commitments may make this difficult. There is no shame in realising and admitting this, and the best way to deal with such an issue is to work together with your former partner to co-parent your children and help them through what will be a difficult time for them, as much as it is for their parents. Children can be resilient, but they almost always need the full support of both of their parents to help them understand what is happening and that they are still very loved by both of their parents.
Often, arrangements for the children will become clearer with time. It may be that, at the outset, parents may have agreed particular days for the children to spend with one parent then the other – but in working to these times it may become apparent that one parent can spend more or less time with the children. Flexibility is key to reaching amicable agreements when it comes to the children, but both parents need to keep in mind, and respect, the other’s feelings and ability to accommodate flexible arrangements. The other parent may have made arrangements for the children on a day when the other parent can spend more time with the children. In such circumstances, there is a compromise which needs to be reached. It is important to remember that a compromise does not always mean the exact ‘middle ground’ – but rather a solution which is fair to both parents and, most importantly, is the best thing for the children.
If you need help or just want to know more about how you can make arrangements for the care of your children with your former partner then you should contact our Solihull based solicitor Greg Bowyer on 0121 746 3002 or feel free to email [email protected] and he will be able to help you. You may also find more information which can help you in our article : Civil Partnerships – what happened financially when you separate?